True love has no object. It is a state of being.
This is the very first blog post I write about love. For such a long time, I pushed this topic aside. I first wanted to have my forever person in my physical reality and be able to openly speak about the love of my life. Before I put anything about love on my Thoughts Of A Woman platforms.
Until lately when I finally awakened to what love truly is. Now I feel the deep desire to share what I have learned regarding love, before my own is fully manifested into my reality. "As you awaken, you will understand that the journey to love isn't about finding the one, the journey is about becoming the one." - Creig Crippen
Quotes like these, are the foundations, we should build love on. We can use them, learn from them and apply them to our lives.
The love of my life taught me so much about love, the love of my life taught me that love is already within me. I need not seek it outwardly. Whether we are together in the physical realm or separated by space and time. The love we have for each other can still be felt. It still makes us smile, it still comes through in music that we listen to, movies that we watch, quotes that we read. Even dreams that we dream, they show us how strongly the candle of our love burns. Regardless of what is happening in the physical realm. We walk by faith not by sight.
I normally say that as a young girl. Before I awakened, I ran around like a headless chicken. Searching for something, craving it, desiring it. Until I found what I was looking for and I found it in God. The very essence of what Love is. In the Bible it says that God is Love. God made us in His image, therefore the very essence of us, is love. Now I'm far more grounded in all aspects of my life. The Bible does say "Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart." - Psalm 37:4
"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." - Rumi.
Years ago, when we first met my love shared a quote with me that I never actually truly understood, until later on in life. Till this very day I 'm reminded of that quote. The quote says: "Relationships are like birds. If you hold tightly, they die. If you hold loosely, they fly. But if you hold with care, they remain with you forever." - Unkown (The quote is a picture of a hand held open, with a bird sitting on it.) In the Song, For You by Rita Ora ft Liam Payne, Rita sings, "I'm free as a bird when I'm flying in your cage". That sums true love up, you're free to be yourself, free to grow, free to make your own choices, your own mistakes. Yet you're still fully, completely loved. That is something not many people can do. Myles Munroe said that if you ask yourself why you love someone and you're able to answer the question. You don't really love that person. Whatever you attached to the person can fade away. For example, if you say you love someone because they provide for you, what happens when they can't provide for you anymore? Will you still love them?
"You do not see me for I am hidden inside your soul. Others want you for themselves, but I call you back to yourself."
Love is not about controlling someone, love is not about attaching yourself to another, the Bible verse 1 Corinthians 13 says clearly what love truly is,
Love is patient and kind; it is not jealous or conceited or proud; love is not ill-mannered or selfish or irritable; love does not keep a record of wrongs; love is not happy with evil but is happy with the truth. Love never gives up; and its faith, hope, and patience never fail. Love is eternal. - 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (GNT Bible)
They say that we meet different souls in life. Some to teach us, hurt us, use us, betray us or leave us. Yet every soul is sent on our path to help us grow and move forward on our life path, if we allow it. They may be there to help us, guide us, share their wisdom or give advice. The same way, you were sent on their path, to help them, guide them, share your wisdom and give advice to them. The lessons we learn from others will always outweigh the challenges we have to face. The choice is always ours whether we open ourselves up to look for the lessons, instead of focusing on the challenges that may come up in relationships.
What we see now is like a dim image in a mirror, then we shall see face to face. What I know now is only partial; then it will be complete - as complete as God's knowledge of me. Meanwhile these three remain; faith, hope, and love; and the greatest of these is love. - 1 Corinthians 13:12-13 (GNT Bible)
Love can heal even the deepest and most painful memories because love brings the light of understanding to the dark corners of our mind.
I still have a lot I can write about love. For that you'll have to wait for my book!
Written By: Nadine van Rayner - Thoughts Of A Woman
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Beautifully written 💚🙏🏼